My story of three Filipina women began in January 2014, when I met a 35 yr young Filipina online Facebook, the single mother of "tres marias" residing in Manila trying to make a living for herself and her three daughters. After a couple of months chatting online and video Skype, we decided to enter our status on Facebook as "in relationship" on her 36th birthday. She was very happy and had a big smile. The very next day a 25 yr young & feisty Filipina messaged me on Facebook and sent me a friend request.
Lesson #1, never start flirting/chatting when in relationship, end one girlfriend before starting another.
So I went ahead and accepted her friend request and we began chatting, and soon the 36 yr woman began questioning who this "other woman" was, why was I chatting with her, etc. I brushed it aside, saying just casual friend, and she accepted it. Well after a couple of months of chatting/skype with both Filipinas, I decided to go to the Philippines and meet them both. So I made my plans and booked my first trip in my life outside of the United States.
During this time yet another third filipina 20 yr young contacted me on Facebook we became friends and she asked me many times for a loan, and told her I dont do loans, if I give money its donation, and right now I cant donate. well after many requests, I finally agreed to do the loan, with written promise to pay it back, to help her out. She also asked about investing in her family wax business in Butuan City. So I agreed to meet with her and her father during my month long trip to the Philippines and discuss their plan.
Lesson #2 Dont do loans with Filipinas, its ALL donations.
Upon my arrival Manila Aquino Terminal 1 International, my cellphone became locked due to some anti-virus software I had installed on it, and I forgot the password. Then the 36 yr \woman failed to show up to meet me, thinking I would be arriving Terminal 3, and we had no way of contacting each other. So looking lost and disoriented, a Filipina / English speaking man approached me and suggested we go to nearby hotel and log in my Facebook to contact my 36 yr. girlfriend. I accepted his offer and away we went to the Siayan Travellers Inn in Pasay City.
After five wonderful days with my 36 yr girlfriend in relationship, it came time to flight to Butuan City and meet with the other young Filipina and her father to discuss their wax business. My girlfriend wanted to come along, but I said I was busy and already made plans, so she agreed to wait for me, bless her heart. She didnt know I planned to meet and greet the other 25 yr young & feisty Filipina on this short side trip to the S. Mindanao.
Lesson #3, when in relationship, always tell your girlfriend who you are meeting with and why, no hiding, no secrets.
So I arrive Butuan Bacasi airport, and there to meet me were two Filipinas, and I saw the young 25 yr first, but scanned over to see the other Filipina with her father, so I went and greeted them first, then took them over to meet the young 25 yr Filipina. After a brief business meeting about the wax business, the 25 yr Filipina and I checked into our room and spent the night. Well during this time my girlfriend was trying to reach me and couldnt so she immediately became suspicious, and I broke down and admitted that I had come to meet the "other Pinay". After much anguish and turmoil, my girlfriend agreed to let this play out and see what happens. Five days in Gingoog city, during which I saw the most incredible sunrise of my entire life, and walking the black sand beaches of San Juan,I became infatuated with this young Pinay and her family. We drank Tanduay, got drunk and they gave me my first Filipina bath ! Then it came time to go back to Manila and finish my month long trip with my girlfriend in relationship.
I knew quickly that I did not have the money to invest the third Filipinas wax business, but I didnt want to break her heart, so i said let me think about it.
Lesson #4, always tell someone if you know something is not possible no matter how hard it is. So I delayed my decision until the end of the trip.
While back in Manila with my girlfriend, we enjoyed some real Filipino life in the Philippines provinces/barangay Anuling with her sister and mother, riding tricycles to get there and seeing all the hustle and bustle of the community. I did make it out for a round of golf, and an unusual thing happened at the golf course. The golf pro I has been referred to at the private club Riviera in Tagaytay was off that day, so another Filipina man, the General Manager showed up at the gate, and offered to escort us back to the clubhouse and assist us getting on one of the private courses. A tournament of the Philippines Tour was going on that day, and we took some really cool pictures together. So I paid my green fees and a caddy was assigned and we got in a cart to head out to the first tee, and the GM informed me that women guests of golfers are not allowed on the golf course. I was quite surprised as I wanted to spend this time with her and show her my golf game, but she agreed to stay in the clubhouse and wait for me. She seemed fine with it, so I went ahead with my female caddy to the first tee. Once we got to the tee, I said I had forgotten to give my girlfriend some money, so I wanted to go back, so they sent a guy in a cart to get me and halfway back to the clubhouse, he gets a phone call and stops the cart and turns around and told me that my group was on the tee, we didn't have time to go back to the clubhouse. Well, thats not right, and I was upset, but there wasn't anything I could do about it. I thought I would see her at the turn and give her some money at that time. So after a very long nine holes, taking over two hours, we got back to the clubhouse, and there in the waiting area was my girlfriend slumped down on the couch looking very depressed, so I immediately asked her "whats the matter" and she declined to answer me. I knew something was terribly wrong by her body language and quickly decided I had to end my round of golf, so I went and checked out and we were escorted back to the gate by the GM. During that time nothing was spoken between us and it was a very awkward moment, as I was trying to figure out what had happened to my dear girlfriend back at the clubhouse while I was paying golf. Once we got in a jeepney for our ride back to the barangay, I asked my girlfriend what had happened and she said nothing. So i pressed her for more information, she said, that after i was taken to the first tee, she was approached by the GM and another man and escorted to the dining area where they offered to buy a drink. She reluctantly agreed, feeling uncomfortable with these two strangers, and they sat down together. Conversation followed about where she lived , how long she knew me, and where I was from, very personal type questions. This was at the time I was trying to get back to the clubhouse, and the man escorting me got a phone call and abruptly turned his cart back to the first tee. When I asked my girlfriend, what happen next, she said they told her that if she had any problems with me the foreigner American guy, to let them know and they gave her their business cards. But I sensed something more happened and was the reason my girlfriend had gone "tampo" on me. I was convinced by the time we got back to her barangay, that my girlfriend had been "raped" by one of those Filipino men. I was very upset and went directly to the man in the barangay who referred me to that club and told him what had happened. He said he would check it out. I told him to report this to the police.
Lesson #5 , Never leave your Pinay in company of stranger Filipino men
So back in the barangay, the next day, i decided to go to the internet cafe, and message my "other woman" by email, and forgot to log out my account when finished, and along came my girlfriends sister, who opened the same personal computer, and found my open email. She was appalled by this news and information and went to my girlfriend to tell her all about it. My girlfriend didn't want to make an issue of it since she already knew about my other woman.
Lesson #6 , never message your other woman around your girlfriend and expect to get away with it. Dont forget to log out your account too.
We decided to go into town to the mall in Makati, to get my hearing aid fixed/batteries, and a neighbor woman agreed to drive if I paid for the gas, so we headed into town, on a wild and crazy road, and when we get to a toll station and she looked at me for money to pay the toll, ok, so I paid it, but not too happy about it. Then unbeknownst to me the attractive Filipina woman driving, decided she needed to change into different shorts, so she removed her panty while she was driving and my girlfriend's sister was aghast at what she saw.....one of those amazing moments!!
Soon my first trip to the Philippines trip winded down, not enough time or money to take the side trip to Baguio my girlfriend had arranged free accommodations for, she was very disappointed. Ending on a sore note, but a very cool experience and faced with a huge dilemma, which Filipina woman am I going to go with????? I decided to give it some time, and decide once I got home the uSA.
So after a couple of weeks I decided to seek advice from my church, and the counselor advised me not to choose either Filipina, and that was out of the question in my mind, so I went to my psychologist, and she also advised me not to get involved with either of the Filipinas. So I delayed my decision, and sought the advice of my daughter, and she as well said dont go with either of these women. Well I just had to make my own decision and go with it, so I prayed and one Sunday after church, I decided it had to be my girlfriend I was in relationship status with from the beginning. I informed her and the other woman of my decision and thought everything was going to be good, But......
Soon after my initial decision I changed my mind, and with much regret informed my girlfriend I was in love with, that I wasn't sure, and needed more time to "finish up" with the other woman, the young 25 yr I was infatuated with. Well this didnt last long, and I again changed my mind and said i need more time . Neither was happy but both agreed to wait and see. After four months and no third and Final decision, I decided to go back to the Philippines, spend time with both, and then make my Final decision.
Lesson # 7 always go with your first “gut” intuition/ decision!
My second trip in October 2014 to the Phils was planned but not accepted by either of the two Filipina women, but i decided to go anyway, and if one chose not to go along with then so be it. I decided to spend my first two weeks with the woman down in N. Mindanao and spend some time on Camiguin Island for the Lanzones Festival, so we made prepaid reservations. The 36 yr woman, at first was ok with me finishing my trip with her, but per my request later, I said, upon my arrival Manila, dont let me get on that plane to Butuan, coz I didnt know if I would make it back. This would later become huge. My other woman told me do not see the 36 yr. upon my arrival Manila, and do not plan to go back for my birthday Nov. 2 to be with her, but my plan was to spend time with both so....away I went.
Lesson #8 If a Filipina doesnt agree or accept, then listen and plan accordingly.
Upon my arrival late at night Manila time, the 36yr old was there but did not greet me at the airport, she sent her friend. Then after meeting, she gave me a vicious letter she had written, calling me a Liar. Things were tense and stressed. I only had a three hour layover till my next flight to Butuan, so we sat down and she issued me an ultimatum, if i flighted to Butuan, she would never see me again. So I messaged my other woman, told her something had come up, I would be delayed and I would get back to her since we had a week before our reservation on Camiguin Island. So I missed my flight to Butuan and we spent the night at the Siayan and next day in Manila. I decided that day, I needed to follow thru with my plans and get down to Butuan, coz the other woman was there waiting for me, so I rebooked my flight the next morning, messaged the 25 yr woman in my facebook on the hotel computer, and didnt tell the 36 yr. That next morning 3am, we woke for my 6am flight, and Im packing my bags, she gets furious with me and while im the shower, she took my passport. Right before we are leaving, I check for it and realize its missing, she had it and refused to give it back. So it was time to go, I tell her lets go, and she grabs my care package I had given her and throws it out the window, then she grabs my cell phone and throws it out the window, then she stands on the window sill of the wide open window and threatened to jump if I left. In panic mode, I grabbed her and pulled her down, we struggled and fell hard onto the floor, separating my left shoulder, almost breaking my tibia and putting a huge deep gash in my ankle which was bleeding. I got up, and left the room to get help and the hotel manager came to the room to make sure everything was calmed down. Running out of time, I wrapped my ankle, grabbed my bags and headed down for the airport shuttle with her coming along now. On the way, she gave me my passport back and i put it in my backpack, upon our arrival the airport while standing in line to get into the terminal, I feel the zipper on my backpack open and close, and she took off running. So I left my bags and took off after her, not realizing she had stolen my passport again, and just as she gets into a taxi, she says shes leaving me now, so I gave her 3000 pesos and said Ill see you in two weeks. Once inside the terminal, I go to check in, and my passport was gone, so I had to use my USA drivers license ID, which was fine for domestic travel in the Phils. I struggled to make it to the plane just on time, hobbling on a badly bruised leg/ankle.
Lesson #9 Always let your plan be known to a Filipina, they like to know.
Upon my arrival in Butuan a day late but on time 7:30am, and my other woman was nowhere to be found, so I caught a jeepney into the city thinking she was at the Windsoar hotel waiting for me. But halfway there, the driver received a call from his buddy telling him that my woman was back at the airport, so we turned around went back and picked her up. She was very upset with me, but glad I made it, and away we went back to her place in the province. After a couple days exploring the Rizal barangay, we decided I needed to get my passport back, so I contacted the 36 yr and threatened to go to the US embassy if she didnt give back and she agreed, so I booked a flight back to Manila for the 25 yr and I to retrieve my passport. Once, back in Manila, i checked in the Siayan, left my 25 yr there and took a 1000 php taxi ride to QC where the 36 yr was living. She regrettably and sweetly returned my passport, so I treated her and her friend to Starbucks. Again, I told her I would see her in a week, after I finished my time with the other woman. So I returned to the Siayan, we spent a quiet evening there and flighted back to Butuan Bacasi early the next morning.
Next came our dream trip to Camiguin Island, staying near the water at Pagia's cottages, first highlights being the Katibawasan Falls and putt putt golf, then a delightful lunch at restaurant and another dinner of beers and pizza, then we decided to rent a motor scooter for a day, after I successfully passed the driver's test the afternoon before. So up early and ready for a day of exploring the island by scooter, we had breakfast and jumped on the scooter, and as soon as I got to the first turn, I lost control as we sped up quickly and crashed head on into a huge boulder. Fortunately I had put on the helmet provided the driver, as my forehead hit the rock and I went down and my girlfriend flew over me to the side of the boulder, dazed but uninjured. I got up extremely dazed, could’nt find my girlfriend, and wandered over to the side of the road. Our day trip was cancelled as my neck was in a lot of pain and we were both shocked at what had happened. I decided to wait on xrays and see how my neck felt after a couple of days. We managed to make into Mambajao on Saturday out of cash money for the day long parade and Lanzones festivities. Now out of cash and no credit, we were forced to cut our stay short by one day to get a cash refund and enough pesos to pay the ferry boat ride to the mainland and bus back to Butuan. Once we made it back to Butuan, I could use my credit card in some places.
Now it came decision time, two days before my birthday, and her family was planning big lechon roast celebration, and i decided I just needed to get back to the USA, and reschedule my flight, but they were unable to in Butuan, so I made the hard decision to leave the 25 yr and return to Manila. It was a sad way to leave and I left her my white G Shock watch as a remembrance at the airport.
Once back in Manila, the 36 yr met me and helped me get my flight changed back to the uSA, and was quite sad that my time with her was also cut short, and her plans for Baguio were again cancelled. But we had a few days left, so we headed back down to Tagaytay, and found a cheap place to stay, and took some wonderful photos on the edge of Lake Taal near the volcano, the 36 yr balancing on the railing. Then the night of my birthday, she decided to get into my backpack, and found a gift mug from the young 25 yr. and smashed it in the front of me. another traumatic, drama thing I became very upset with her, and wanted to go back to Manila. But on my 62 birthday, we went to Starbucks and shared pancakes. Later we enjoyed a buko pie and watched birds my last day.
So my month long 2nd trip was cut short to 25 days, and I flighted back to USA with heavy heart, crying uncontrollably, for all the trauma I cause the 36 yr woman, and the scooter accident with the 25 yr. I knew in my heart I wanted the 36 yr but the drama we go through damaged our relationship and was going to have to go with the 25 yr Filipina.
Lesson #10 Always tell the truth, be open and Honest with Filipinas.
Once back in USA, I quickly decided the end the long six month wait, and chose the 25 yr woman full of swag, and wrote an open letter to both Filipinas explaining my final decision. The moral to my story is always end one relationship before starting another, and Never entertain two women at the same time.
The issue: Chatting in FB comments....vs Messenger
Ok we got engaged, and posted it in Life Events, which got posted on my timeline,
so my fiance's friend comments. my fiance replies, the friend comments back in Tagalog and now we have a CHAT going in comments, instead of Messenger.
Its annoying becoz of the language difference, and inability to read whats being commented.
This becomes rude and inconsiderate
These comments apply to those "in a relationship" on FB Think twice before you send a friend request to the opposite sex.....it may cause reason for concern, questions, and reaction fr your bf/gf..... If asked, always answer truthfully and honest.....anything but will not be acceptable and lead to further dissension in the relationship... To Block.....yes its necessary to block those who openly interfere in your relationship..... Unblock...always check with yr bf/gf first...its not a good move to make on your own....it will raise questions...difficult to answer... To Like or Not.....ok to Like anything, lets not get carried away is all... Oh, one thing if, a friend likes on yr new profile pic, never go and prvt message that person, if you want to acknowledge them, do it openly in the comments for all to see. Just some things to keep a healthy relationship.... RR
Ok, you re scrolling your FB news feed, and you see a post or two you don't care for..what do you do?
Well lets consider the options......Rt click the little down icon in the rt corner of the post and select
I do not want to see this post
Unfollow this Friend
If you choose to Unfollow, you'll still be friends with that person but you won't see anymore posts from them.
Before you choose to unfollow, you may want to wait until that persons post just go not suit you, otherwise you ll never see anything from them again, and miss out .
I noticed I was hardly getting any Likes from my friends on many pf my posts and realized they have decided to unfollow me.
Personally, I disagree with having a joint Facebook oe email account with a spouse and or significant other, as we are all individuals with our own likes/dislikes/ and preferences... The idea of being one in marriage and having joint bank account is great but in regards to email /facebook, a joint account is absurd. We all have the right to our own personal
communication, likes, and social networking. What do you think? #jointFB
Ok so April 1 rolls around, and you decide to have some fun with a couple of good FB friends, and play a prank. So you post on their page, TM is pregnant again.....everyone know it is a joke, she had her last child over a decade ago. And Bam, what happens, I got a private message to delete the post, so I tried to chat back, it was April fools, and I'm now blocked by "Facebook User" and no longer able to view her page or chat. In case your wondering, this person still has an active FB account, but I have been blocked.
The other person I played this with took it in stride, and commented on the post jokingly. Just goes to show you, you never know how friends will react.
